When thinking of Norse god, Thor, I imagine thunder and lightening storms. Yesterday morning, in contrast, the journey to the station was gloriously lit by a light orange, pink, pale blue, wispy grey dawn.
Below a shot of one of my favourite views from the station. Glimpses of the heavens reflected in Saltwater Creek surrounded by silhouetted trees.
As the sky lightened with deeper reds and golds, I took a picture near Petrie station.
At the end of the day, whilst awaiting the arrival of the 4:20 to carry me home, thinking again of Thor, I captured a view of the platform, steel rails, and wall opposite.
This morning I used the double exposure filter to overlay the images in Google Snapseed to create the top image. I like the result.
Five learnings from my journey of service to others
Beware the drama triangle Take a moment to step back, assess the situation. Are characters from the drama triangle* about to draw me in? I aim to be objective and assist participants to find a way out.
I learned the hard way, taking on the part of Rescuer often led to situations that compromised one of my core values, integrity.
Self limiting practises suck I have often found myself tied up in my own self limiting practises due to making assumptions, skewed perception, self doubt, and misguided self reliance. This led to missed opportunities for me to assist others to develop, poorer quality outcomes and my own burnout.
Fear of failure; bunny in the headlights I cannot overstate the sheer horror and inner trauma of being faced with the threat of not achieving a goal, in my service to another.
The worst was realised by the refusal of a stakeholder to cooperate. This brought forth significant flight or fight responses.
Having clear measures of success, being prepared for resistance and exploring collaboration rather than drawing battle have helped me since.
Being ‘helpful’ or taking over When I first started coaching, I observed myself wanting to jump in to help by taking over. An urge, almost too hard to resist.
What a relief it was to understand the benefits of others’ active participation in decision making, problem solving and learning processes. The person being coached is imbued with freedom during the journey and has ownership of the outcome.
Resilience Resilience to deal with this time of volatility, uncertainty, complexity, and ambiguity. For an emotional soul such as I, it’s important for me to to not take things personally; stick my head in the sand, or become a victim.
Acceptance of the way things are grants permission to move forward.
*Dr Stephen Karpman developed a dynamic model of social interaction and conflict, calling it the ‘drama triangle’. Three participants take the roles of ‘rescuer’, ‘persecutor’, ‘victim’. I recommend reading How to opt out of the drama triangle.
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