Acceptance

Lately, I’ve been mulling over the concept of acceptance in contributing to happiness.

For me, conscious and unconscious resistance can lead to spending more money than we have and overindulgence in the hip widening and liver damaging luxuries of life.

The resulting feelings of frustration, anger, shame, blame, guilt, self-loathing, and self-doubt are overwhelming.

Ruminating on the past while agonising over the consequences of my actions, results in a harsh reality. Appropriately described in the idiom, ‘you’ve made your bed, now lie on it.’ A mantra I frequently use to beat myself with.

Sometimes, being dissatisfied with my current lot, I can be impatient in getting to where I believe we are striving to be. Dangerous territory, being built on a vague assumption and an indeterminate plan.

Frenzied discombobulated highly tiring brain activity follows. This green tinted lens lessens my appreciation of what we have in our relationship, friends and family, home life, home location and surrounds, lifestyle, work balance, safety, and freedom.

I have found refusing to accept our situation significantly impacts my mental resilience. Compounding incidents hasten a downward spiralling mood. The only way out is for me to provide myself permission to embrace the present and take time to enjoy what is now, not what was, or may be.

6 thoughts on “Acceptance

  1. Dear Robert,

    Quoting Elizabeth Thornton as follows:

    Mindfulness is a way of being present: paying attention to and accepting what is happening in our lives. It helps us to be aware of and step away from our automatic and habitual reactions to our everyday experiences.

    Speaking of being present in the moment with awareness and (engaged) mindfulness, I can see from your last paragraph that you are trying “to embrace the present and take time to enjoy what is now, not what was, or may be”, which happens to be a topic that I have quite a lot to convey to you in a highly engaging and expansive post entitled “🦅 SoundEagle in Best Moment Award from Moment Matters 🔖🏆

    The said post opens with this paragraph:

    A spiritual outlook with a minimalist perspective on life that is conducive to happiness is often predicated on living in the present moment through mindful awareness emancipated from the vagaries of the subconscious and the itinerants of the mind.

    To give us an opportunity to appreciate and discuss about these issues even more deeply and from multidisciplinary and interdisciplinary perspectives, I would like to refer you to my detailed analyses and extended discussions in the concluding section called “Conclusion: Change Rules and Moment Matters” of this said post, available at http://soundeagle.wordpress.com/2013/03/18/soundeagle-in-best-moment-award-from-moment-matters/#Conclusion

    May you find this post dealing with mindfulness and “living in the moment” beneficial to you as well as your partner in various ways.

    Wishing you a productive weekend doing or enjoying whatever that satisfies you the most!

    Yours sincerely,
    SoundEagle

  2. People erroneously believe ‘acceptance’ means it was OK what happened, or nothing can be done about it. Acceptance is more about letting go of what might have been, including the rage that something ought not to have happened in the first place. With acceptance, one can move forward.
    Good for you !

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